1. Planning too many things into one day.
You might be the kind of person who likes sticking to a schedule to the smallest details and absolutely by the minute, I don't know. But believe me when I say your guests probably won't be, especially if it's a summer wedding and they're just looking to chill and enjoy themselves, and as the wedding day goes on trying to keep to a timetable while not impossible does become more and more challenging, and although I may not know you dear reader, one thing I can pretty much guarantee is regardless of your wedding timetable, "stress" will not be scheduled in at any point that day.
People take longer than normal to do anything on a wedding day, because like I said they want to relax as well as celebrate your wedding day. There doesn't need to be a rotation in activities or planned events every hour, relax and enjoy!
2. Cocktail hour doesn’t have to be 1 hour.
This is carrying on a bit from my first point, but actually an hour can go quite fast if you have couples photos, group photos, congratulatory hugs, canapés and fizz drinking, trying to get round as many of your guests as you can, and potentially using a lawn game that you hired with your guests so they have something to do in that time.
Giving yourself an extra half an hour though can work wonders and alleviate the stress of trying to fit lots of things in. Plus if you have nibbles no one is going to be starving, and can wait a bit longer for dinner (and that's saying something coming from me as a big food lover!).
If you're having micro wedding, it might just be nicer to have half an hour or so of congratulatory hugs and fizz drinking, a few group photos and then go straight into dinner, so the time doesn't drag, totes up to you!
3. Wedding cake – plans for actually eating it!
I've been to quite a few weddings now where the wedding cake is actually the dessert at dinner, genius!
Think about it, most people won't have wondered off between mains and desserts, so it's a great time to cut your cake (make sure you do mention this before you start dinner and in your wedding schedule for the day though so people know), plus you make sure that most of the cake does actually get eaten too, and everyone would have got a slice.
You don't have to do this of course, but please don't neglect that gorgeous wedding cake and make sure you have plans for displaying it beautifully, cutting it and getting it eaten by as many of your guests as possible.
On a Wednesday in May, with extremely unpredictable weather, Patrick & Natasha got married at Southwark Registry Office, and had the quickest wedding ceremony I’ve ever seen! Might have been 5 minutes long?
They had a very intimate wedding with both their sets of parents as guests, with me included there was just 7 of us altogether, so it was such an honour to be there!
Their friend gave them both brooches as an engagement present, and they each wore them on their wedding day. I loved how laid back and untraditional their day was, and we even had time before they popped off to dinner to have some photos along the south bank.
Thank you both! You were such a joy to work with and I wish you both nothing but the very best ♥️