I was reading an article the other day that caught my attention about a term I had never heard of. Reading it I learned that Pete and I had a “Destination Micro Wedding” and didn’t even realise! (I even photographed one at the end of last year! Pictures below)
Yes yes it sounds like a trendy idea that could go out of vogue in a matter of years, but I’m prepared to go out on a limb and say that I think they might be here to stay. If you don’t have a big budget, or are low key or introverted people who don’t want a fuss but a nice intimate wedding day, they are definitely something to consider.
An small and intimate wedding that is similar to an elopement, but you invite a small number of close family and friends along too.
Sometimes less really is more, and if you have a smaller budget it can go a lot further and you are able to have more of the things you want for less. For example, feeding let's say 12 people is obviously going to cost you far less than feeding 100 or even 200, so you have the option to spend more per head than you would if your guest list was bigger.
A lot of wedding suppliers such as photographers, florists and bakers are willing to do the same great quality of product you want, but for less because you probably need less of a service from them. If there's only 12 of you for dinner, you are less likely to have a huge wedding cake that feeds 200 right? (or maybe not, maybe you really like cake!)
From personal experience you also get around to talk to all your guests much easier than you would at a larger wedding, and I found the day is so much less stressful.
Restricting your guest list can be difficult and challenging, there are certain people that you wish you could invite, but inevitably they mount up and the micro-ness of the day is no more. Also trying to explain your micro wedding plans to some family and friends might be challenging.
But to avoid this you can have a party for your extended family and friends when you get back, like we did. A party is also an excuse for you guys to wear your wedding dress and suit again, and because it isn’t your actual wedding day there is a lot less pressure. We managed to get around to speak to all our party guests easier, and we felt there was less pressure and demand to be doing a lot of things all crammed into one typical wedding day.
If you decide to go for a "Destination Micro Wedding" you do have to consider the reality that some of your invited loved ones might not being able to attend depending on where you choose. Because of this we decided to not go abroad and got married in the UK (Although Las Vegas did seriously tempt us, we settled on going there for our honeymoon instead. It's a place I highly recommend visiting as it's a hell of a great city!). For some families and friends this might not be an issue, but it is something to consider.
Ultimately it's your wedding day and no one can tell you what is perfect for you.
If you really like the idea of lots of your family and friends being there, then absolutely go for a more traditional wedding, there is nothing wrong with that, it's your day after all!
From a photographic and personal perspective, I think weddings that are big and small when done well, are equally fabulous. You do you.
I hope you found this helpful and happy wedding planning!
If you have any questions you'd like me to answer, feel free to get in touch.
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